The relationship is over and you are really done, emotionally. There are twinges here and there but you move beyond. Old patterns may crop up but you recognize them now and are able to alter your urges and responses. Memories don’t need to be completely erased but you don’t need to dwell in the past and. You are beginning to have plans and goals. You are able to value aspects of your past, especially for your children. Now that you are comfortable and proud of yourself, don’t be afraid to be open to a new relationship but don’t seek perfection – just a good “fit” with great communication and mutual acceptance.
Your independence makes you a solid role model. It is important for children to be independent, from parents, before they make a successful, significant love connection, not because of need but from desire. Each child is different and will have his/her own needs, path and time schedule to heal and flourish. Offer some family pictures from the past in their rooms to acknowledge and appreciate their cherished memories .
- I am pleased with my progress and myself.
- I nourish myself physically and mentally.
- I am proud of my part in our co-parenting relationship
- I am able to express my feelings.
- I let go, emotionally, of my partner/spouse and former life.
- I released my guilt and anger toward him/her.
- I know I can stand alone but am open to new things and people.