After you wrestle with your anger and find yourself winning, you arrive at the bargaining phase. You’re not dancing a jig yet, but you are beginning to see the light. Your emotional investment moves from couplehood to yourself. After looking inward, begin to recognize your input that you don’t want to repeat old patterns of behavior in a new relationship . Work on your self-concept and interaction with others. You see opportunities on the horizon and there is a developing new normalcy. Consider your options and build on them.
As your household becomes less emotionally chaotic, your children are calmer and more ready to embark on some new routines in two homes. Cooperative co-parentingconstructs the foundation of their future emotional growth. As they experience two civil parents, there is no need to take sides and they understand that they can’t manipulate you both [though most children will try]. Open communication is key as they grow and develop.
- I know me and I like me.
- I am confident that I can tackle what comes up.
- I think of my partner/spouse less emotionally.
- I am less angry about my situation.
- I rarely discuss him/her with my friends.
- I accept that we will not get back together.
- I fantasize about moving on, with clarity and confidence.